This was a great story that I couldn't resist sharing. Adapted from "Principles of Bach Flower Remedies" by Stefan Ball. Stefan Ball is the Director of the Bach Centre.
****************************** Jones loved his work. He made furniture by hand and used the best-quality materials because he enjoyed the feel of the timber and the weight of well-made, precision tools. He worked for himself, did not answer to anyone, and made a comfortable living despite the fact that he only earned a humble income. He had found his niche, and he was at peace with the world. Jones’s brother-in-law, Darren, owns a factory which produces cheap, mass-produced sets of dining-room furniture. He too enjoyed his works; for him satisfaction comes from the hustle and bustle of making deals and running a successful business. He is proud of the fact that his furniture gives value for money. The people who buy it could never afford the chairs and tables Jones made. One day, Darren came for a visit. At dinner he noticed and liked the dining-room table which was designed and made by Jones. Next day he offered Jones a very large salary – more than double of what Jones was currently earning – to join his firm and take personal charge of the design department. Jones thought it over. He didn’t want to do it, but he had always found it hard to say no to Darren. It was a lot of money. Reluctantly, Jones accepted the offer. At first, Jones threw himself into the new job, determined to make a success of it. In the back of his mind was the thought that he would be able to keep making his own furniture in his spare time. But the hours at the factory were long, as was the rush-hour commute to and from work. At the hour he got home, the children were already in bed, and he barely had enough energy to slump in front of the television. The weekends were his only chance to spend time with the family. His tools gather dust in the workroom. Up to now, he had got on well with Darren. Now that he worked for Darren, the relationship changed. Darren was very pleasant, but he expected Jones to do as he was told and could be fairly abrasive. Jones’ first few designs did not quite work and looked even worse when they had been knocked together out of the fibreboard and cheap pine that the company uses for raw materials. After a month or so, Jones began to suffer from headaches. He started taking out his frustrations on his wife and family. He hated himself for doing it, but he was permanently on a short fuse and lost his temper before he had time to remember to keep it. A couple of times, he smacked the children – something he never did in the past. Tired all the time, he was beginning to lose confidence in himself as a father and a designer. Eventually Jones’s health broke down into a series of colds and attacks of flu. He felt sorry for himself – it was everyone else’s fault. He began to hate Darren for messing up his life, and he planned how he could take revenge. Moral of the story: ~ How easy it is to be unbalanced by things that happen to us in life. If Jones had taken Centaury (the Bach Flower Remedy to help those who have difficulties saying ‘no’ to others) when the job offer was made to him, the rest of the story would have changed. On the other hand, if Jones only turned to Bach Flower Remedies when the problems started to build up, he would have forgotten all about the fact that the real cause was his failure to resist someone else’s wishes. Instead Jones will be suffering from a collection of apparently unrelated mental states: guilt for neglecting his children or for not doing a good job; frustration; tiredness; a lack of confidence in his ability to do the job well. After a time, as we have seen, these feelings may be covered up – in our example of self-pity and hatred. This is the snowball effect. Untreated imbalances tend to build up layers of negative emotion. Once the snowball builds, we lose sight of our path in life and of the original problem. There seem to be so many difficulties that we may be unsure where to begin.
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Are Bach Flower Remedies suitable for pregnant ladies?
Check out this writeup (http://www.bachcentre.com/centre/pregnant.htm) on how Bach Flower Remedies are not only beneficial to pregnant ladies, but also suitable for the whole family when receiving the new little family member. Watch this video shared by our Singapore Depression Support Group member Katie. Thanks Katie!
Katie Joy Crawford, a 23-year-old photography student based in Baton Rouge, Louisiana made a photo series that would capture her experiences of with depression and anxiety. The series — which is called My Anxious Heart — is composed of 12 evocative self-portraits and personal captions that convey the crippling effects of mental illness.
Does any of these photos describe how you are feeling now? Get back your emotional balance. It's do-able. Lately, I have been attending some social gatherings, and also organizing some meetups and events, hosting more than 10 pax. All these happenings seem so new and refreshing to me. This inspired me to reflect and share this in writing.
At a certain stage of my life around my late 20s, long-time friends might realize I seldom initiate to meetup, though I treasure their friendship greatly. Social activities would freak me out then, and I would frequent the loo several times before making my public appearance. Yet, no one would ever suspect I had this issue, because whenever I mixed around with others, I would always appear to be jovial, humorous and like to joke around. Yet for those who know me when I was a young child, they would beg to differ. Because when I was young, I was a very fun, sociable and loving child. I was the "gang leader" of a big group of faithful followers in my primary school. I never shy away from attention and stage performances. Which is the real me? Can you guess? I was not born with the personality traits displayed in my late 20s. These were developed along the years into what is known as emotion layers (just like an onion, developing layer by layer). They are also known as "fake personalities". The part of me that prefers a more solitary and privacy life, removed from the hustle and bustle of communal life is known as the Water Violet emotion state. A Water Violet person is very independent and self-reliant, and dislikes to impose on others. When in an imbalanced state, a Water Violet person would be closed up and have difficulty to mix with others, forming barrier and distance with others. A Water Violet person would also bear grief and sorrows in silence alone. The other part of me that feel awkward, nervous and shy in social activities is known as the Mimulus emotion state. In an imbalanced state, a Mimulus person would be avoiding crowds, gathering and social situations. To hide these "anti-social" behaviours from the eyes of others, I had developed yet another emotion state of Agrimony. An Agrimony person, when in an imbalanced state, would pretend everything is alright and appear to be happy to others. Worries, fears or anxieties would also be hidden behind a mask of cheerfulness, natural good humour and brave face. Sounds contradicting for a shy person to be a joker too, right? This is possible. Any of the 38 emotion states could occur concurrently, forming an unique individual. During my journey of self-healing using Bach Flower Remedies last year, I took Water Violet, Mimulus and Agrimony with other appropriate remedies. I felt more balanced and blissful after some time, but I did not pay much attention to any improvement as I was busy with other parts of my life. Only now, I came to realize and witness the great improvements that had already subtly happened in me. I found myself inviting long-time friends to my house for gathering, first time in my life! I found myself organizing social events for people whom I never met before at my house! I found myself totally at ease when I attended a seminar today full of people with a new friend whom I have never met in person before. I found myself able to share my worries and past wounds with new online soulmates, instead of hiding them deep inside me. Such positive changes are often heard of for those who participated in NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming), coaching or inspirational programs. But I did none of these. I only added drops of Bach Flower Remedies into my drinking water everyday during my self-healing journey. I have become a balanced Water Violet who is able to open up to others and enjoy their company, and putting my wisdom at the service of others; I have become a balanced Mimulus that has gentle courage to overcome nervousness; I have become a balanced Agrimony who is genuinely cheerful and humourous, and have emotional honesty to deal with problems instead of making light of them. I hope my sharing would inspire others not to give up on their self-improvement easily. *This blog entry would be published in both the Case Studies and Blog sections so that it can inspire more readers. http://www.simplybach.sg/blog http://www.simplybach.sg/case-studies It is often asked whether Bach Flower Remedies work.
The answer is yes, as long as you have made the decision to be in a good mood. Why? Because as long as one is open to positive changes, one is able to experience the effects of taking the Bach Flower Remedies. So, once you have made the most decision in life, i.e. to be in a good mood, you can try Bach Flower Remedies to give yourself a boost using the healing power of simple nature. ~ This post is dedicated to the humans who lost their beloved animal companions ~
Someone lost her beloved bunny recently and I know it's a very sad moment for her. I had went through this loss before, I know how it feels. When I took my Animal Communication course, I learnt that our animals would cross over to the rainbow bridge. Over there, it's a paradise where many other animals are staying there too. There is plenty of love, friendship, food, water and security. Every animals are happy there. When they are ready, they may choose to proceed on to the next stage of life, that is, to come back to Earth to experience life again in the form they wish to take. Sometimes, they may choose to come back to be with their humans again. However, they could not proceed to the next life stage if they know their humans are still grieving for them. Because our beloved animals love and care for us, and they get worried to feel our grief. Yes, we may and we would keep them fondly in our hearts, but let's do so with all the blessings for our deceased animals and not let our grief hold them back further. Let them binky free over the rainbow bridge. It's not easy, I know. For our animals are our soul companions, our kids, our family, our friends. Let simple nature help us. Here are some Bach Flower Remedies that could help us at times likes this: 1. Star of Bethlehem - to comfort and sooth shock, grief and trauma during distressing moments like bereavement. 2. Honeysuckle - to unlock the mind past memories and bring thoughts, energies and focus back to present moment. Have emotional clarity of the past, enjoy and learn from the past without being trapped in it. 3. Red Chestnut - for those who are worried about the well-beings of their loved ones. Being worried for our loved ones, besides harming ourselves, any negative thought, energy, worry or fear for our loved ones would harm them instead. Red Chestnut would help one to have trust and faith that our loved ones would be able to take good care of themselves. 4. Pine - for those who have self-reproach that they have not taken good care of their loved ones. Pine would help to release the burden of guilt and move on in a constructive way. 5. Rescue Remedy - to help one calm down and better cope with emergencies, critical or harsh situations. I wish to help those who are in painful moments like this. I would be giving these remedies mixture to those who need it. If you know of anyone who is going through such ordeals now, let me know. No one needs to go through such pain alone. A short and simple video from a used-to-be Hornbeam guy. Enjoy!
What's Hornbeam? Hornbeam is for an emotion state of procrastination or lacking the mental strength and determination to get ahead with tasks or the day ahead. Most of us would have experienced it somehow - 'Monday Blues'. |
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