This was a great story that I couldn't resist sharing. Adapted from "Principles of Bach Flower Remedies" by Stefan Ball. Stefan Ball is the Director of the Bach Centre.
****************************** Jones loved his work. He made furniture by hand and used the best-quality materials because he enjoyed the feel of the timber and the weight of well-made, precision tools. He worked for himself, did not answer to anyone, and made a comfortable living despite the fact that he only earned a humble income. He had found his niche, and he was at peace with the world. Jones’s brother-in-law, Darren, owns a factory which produces cheap, mass-produced sets of dining-room furniture. He too enjoyed his works; for him satisfaction comes from the hustle and bustle of making deals and running a successful business. He is proud of the fact that his furniture gives value for money. The people who buy it could never afford the chairs and tables Jones made. One day, Darren came for a visit. At dinner he noticed and liked the dining-room table which was designed and made by Jones. Next day he offered Jones a very large salary – more than double of what Jones was currently earning – to join his firm and take personal charge of the design department. Jones thought it over. He didn’t want to do it, but he had always found it hard to say no to Darren. It was a lot of money. Reluctantly, Jones accepted the offer. At first, Jones threw himself into the new job, determined to make a success of it. In the back of his mind was the thought that he would be able to keep making his own furniture in his spare time. But the hours at the factory were long, as was the rush-hour commute to and from work. At the hour he got home, the children were already in bed, and he barely had enough energy to slump in front of the television. The weekends were his only chance to spend time with the family. His tools gather dust in the workroom. Up to now, he had got on well with Darren. Now that he worked for Darren, the relationship changed. Darren was very pleasant, but he expected Jones to do as he was told and could be fairly abrasive. Jones’ first few designs did not quite work and looked even worse when they had been knocked together out of the fibreboard and cheap pine that the company uses for raw materials. After a month or so, Jones began to suffer from headaches. He started taking out his frustrations on his wife and family. He hated himself for doing it, but he was permanently on a short fuse and lost his temper before he had time to remember to keep it. A couple of times, he smacked the children – something he never did in the past. Tired all the time, he was beginning to lose confidence in himself as a father and a designer. Eventually Jones’s health broke down into a series of colds and attacks of flu. He felt sorry for himself – it was everyone else’s fault. He began to hate Darren for messing up his life, and he planned how he could take revenge. Moral of the story: ~ How easy it is to be unbalanced by things that happen to us in life. If Jones had taken Centaury (the Bach Flower Remedy to help those who have difficulties saying ‘no’ to others) when the job offer was made to him, the rest of the story would have changed. On the other hand, if Jones only turned to Bach Flower Remedies when the problems started to build up, he would have forgotten all about the fact that the real cause was his failure to resist someone else’s wishes. Instead Jones will be suffering from a collection of apparently unrelated mental states: guilt for neglecting his children or for not doing a good job; frustration; tiredness; a lack of confidence in his ability to do the job well. After a time, as we have seen, these feelings may be covered up – in our example of self-pity and hatred. This is the snowball effect. Untreated imbalances tend to build up layers of negative emotion. Once the snowball builds, we lose sight of our path in life and of the original problem. There seem to be so many difficulties that we may be unsure where to begin.
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Why did I start SimplyBach and embark on this challenging journey? Because my heart soars whenever I see people willing to help themselves out of the rut, despite all the obstacles they are facing.
However, I came across people wishing to take up my consultation service and embark on their healing journey, but...they stopped in their footpath because of financial constraints. Despite my offer for a discounted consultation fee, they would feel they were imposing on me and would reject my offer. It pains me greatly to see people unable to come forth for their healing for this reason. For months, I was troubled by this, and wondered how I may reach out to help these people. Yesterday, I attended a gathering. A voice told me there were 2 people I needed to converse with, though I had no idea what it was about. Turned out that these 2 people I was supposed to converse with, have all along been helping people on their healing journey without fixing a service fee. They shared a lot of their experience with me, which happened to answer my doubts of what if I were taken for granted by people for not charging a fixed consultation fee? Ah...so this was the message for me. I thought it through seriously for the whole night. The next door has opened for me, I shall walk in...gladly... Henceforth, SimplyBach will not fix the consultation fee. It will be 'pay as you wish', because everyone deserves a chance for their healing journey. And I shall gladly focus on helping people on their healing journey, and leave this monetary dilemma behind. Are Bach Flower Remedies suitable for pregnant ladies?
Check out this writeup (http://www.bachcentre.com/centre/pregnant.htm) on how Bach Flower Remedies are not only beneficial to pregnant ladies, but also suitable for the whole family when receiving the new little family member. Puto had an accident today that caused himself and me a scare until our hearts almost jumped out of our mouths.
I was doing work at my desk, and Puto as usual, came lying close to my work chair. Today he was lying just next to one of the chair's wheel. I noticed and tried to be very careful not to move, lest I injured him. He fell asleep peacefully while I worked. Then there was some loud noise from the neighbour, and it woke him up. He stood up and started panicking. At first, I thought he must had been startled by the noise, so I pampered and stroked him. But then, I started noticing he was trying to run but he could not move on. I saw him pulling against something. The next moment, I saw him pull free from that something, and then I realized his fur was trapped underneath the chair's wheel! A bunch of fur was pulled out as he struggled away. I must had unknowingly moved the slightest inch and trapped his fur unknowingly. Oh, I'm so dreadful sorry, poor boy! He stood there, shocked. I tried to calm him down, but he was panting. In my panic, Rescue Remedy came to my mind, and I told him "Don't be scared, Puto. Mummy gives you Rescue Remedy, ok? " I suspected I must had unknowingly used my animal communication skills to send him an image of the Rescue Remedy, because as I rushed out of the room to find the Rescue Remedy, he ran after me. This was not his usual self. Furthermore, a shocked bunny at such situation would most likely not be able to react in this way. I had no time to dilute the Rescue Remedy and put 4 drops directly onto his snacks. He gobbled them up eagerly, while I added another 4 drops directly into his drinking water. He calmed down a bit after finishing his snack. Then I tried to use animal communication skills again to ask him to drink from his bottle. He did, and after a mouthful of the water, he used his tongue still wet with the Rescue Remedy to lick on the patch where the fur was pulled off. The next moment, he went back to his happy, cheeky self, looking and playing with me as if nothing had happened at all. while I was still shocked from the accident. Now, everything is back to normal. As I'm typing this blog, I can hear that cheeky fella still happily sucking on his water bottle filled with the Rescue Remedy. Luckily, Puto was not new to Rescue Remedy as I had fed it to him before, which was why he could understand Rescue Remedy is something good for him and followed me to find the Rescue Remedy quickly when I accidentally sent him an image of the Rescue Remedy bottle. What a scare for both of us. I'm going to take some Rescue Remedy to calm myself now. Watch this video shared by our Singapore Depression Support Group member Katie. Thanks Katie!
Katie Joy Crawford, a 23-year-old photography student based in Baton Rouge, Louisiana made a photo series that would capture her experiences of with depression and anxiety. The series — which is called My Anxious Heart — is composed of 12 evocative self-portraits and personal captions that convey the crippling effects of mental illness.
Does any of these photos describe how you are feeling now? Get back your emotional balance. It's do-able. Lately, I have been attending some social gatherings, and also organizing some meetups and events, hosting more than 10 pax. All these happenings seem so new and refreshing to me. This inspired me to reflect and share this in writing.
At a certain stage of my life around my late 20s, long-time friends might realize I seldom initiate to meetup, though I treasure their friendship greatly. Social activities would freak me out then, and I would frequent the loo several times before making my public appearance. Yet, no one would ever suspect I had this issue, because whenever I mixed around with others, I would always appear to be jovial, humorous and like to joke around. Yet for those who know me when I was a young child, they would beg to differ. Because when I was young, I was a very fun, sociable and loving child. I was the "gang leader" of a big group of faithful followers in my primary school. I never shy away from attention and stage performances. Which is the real me? Can you guess? I was not born with the personality traits displayed in my late 20s. These were developed along the years into what is known as emotion layers (just like an onion, developing layer by layer). They are also known as "fake personalities". The part of me that prefers a more solitary and privacy life, removed from the hustle and bustle of communal life is known as the Water Violet emotion state. A Water Violet person is very independent and self-reliant, and dislikes to impose on others. When in an imbalanced state, a Water Violet person would be closed up and have difficulty to mix with others, forming barrier and distance with others. A Water Violet person would also bear grief and sorrows in silence alone. The other part of me that feel awkward, nervous and shy in social activities is known as the Mimulus emotion state. In an imbalanced state, a Mimulus person would be avoiding crowds, gathering and social situations. To hide these "anti-social" behaviours from the eyes of others, I had developed yet another emotion state of Agrimony. An Agrimony person, when in an imbalanced state, would pretend everything is alright and appear to be happy to others. Worries, fears or anxieties would also be hidden behind a mask of cheerfulness, natural good humour and brave face. Sounds contradicting for a shy person to be a joker too, right? This is possible. Any of the 38 emotion states could occur concurrently, forming an unique individual. During my journey of self-healing using Bach Flower Remedies last year, I took Water Violet, Mimulus and Agrimony with other appropriate remedies. I felt more balanced and blissful after some time, but I did not pay much attention to any improvement as I was busy with other parts of my life. Only now, I came to realize and witness the great improvements that had already subtly happened in me. I found myself inviting long-time friends to my house for gathering, first time in my life! I found myself organizing social events for people whom I never met before at my house! I found myself totally at ease when I attended a seminar today full of people with a new friend whom I have never met in person before. I found myself able to share my worries and past wounds with new online soulmates, instead of hiding them deep inside me. Such positive changes are often heard of for those who participated in NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming), coaching or inspirational programs. But I did none of these. I only added drops of Bach Flower Remedies into my drinking water everyday during my self-healing journey. I have become a balanced Water Violet who is able to open up to others and enjoy their company, and putting my wisdom at the service of others; I have become a balanced Mimulus that has gentle courage to overcome nervousness; I have become a balanced Agrimony who is genuinely cheerful and humourous, and have emotional honesty to deal with problems instead of making light of them. I hope my sharing would inspire others not to give up on their self-improvement easily. *This blog entry would be published in both the Case Studies and Blog sections so that it can inspire more readers. http://www.simplybach.sg/blog http://www.simplybach.sg/case-studies Sharing the comments from another forum of bunny lovers using Bach Flower Remedies for bunnies - Click here to view the thread.
Not all the info is entirely correct as they are layperson using the Rescue Remedy, but I feel this is a good source to know how Rescue Remedy have been used by other bunny lovers. On such a meaningful day - Good Friday, I came across a meaningful quote "Do not fear if someone uses your knowledge; be worried if all your knowledge dies with you".
This is what I'm telling myself everytime I share my Bach Flower Remedies knowledge. May I have the strength, courage and faith to give pure love as a willingness to give without a thought of receiving anything in return. This would be my conviction. March on, SimplyBach! |
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